Author Archives: Pam

Highlights

The energetic staff of ALBW are already planning for ALBW 2023, which is a lovely thought but I don’t know if I will go. If I’ve learned anything in the last two years, it’s that you really don’t ever know … Continue reading

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10-12 April 2022

Sunday, 10 April I spend the last day of my stay exploring Hebden Bridge. Such a delight! I highly recommend a visit here and a stay at the Hebden Townhouse B&B. The weather turns fair, at last, just as I … Continue reading

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8-9 April 2022

Highlight #6 Anne Lister Society Meeting Best for last. On the final two days of ALBW comes the inaugural meeting of the Anne Lister Society, coordinated by Laurie Shannon, professor of English Literature at Northwestern University (this woman is everywhere … Continue reading

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7 April 2022

Thursday Highlight #5 Organ recital/Her Ensemble Concert I’m tempted to call this my favorite highlight and it will be difficult to describe in words. In Pilgrimage #1, I attended a free organ concert at the Halifax Minster. The main organ … Continue reading

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5-6 April 2022

Honestly, at this point, it all begins to blur together. I spend half a day at Shibden Hall, wandering through familiar rooms and grounds. Truly, it feels like coming home, fills me with such peace and a sense of belonging. … Continue reading

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3 April 2022

Sunday Highlight #2 Anne’s 231st birthday. The day starts early and cold with a laying of flowers at the statue of Anne Lister at the Piece Hall. The statue, called “Contemplation” by Diane Lawrenson, is a recent addition, a near-life-size … Continue reading

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2 April 2022

Saturday Again, sleep is a bastard. My body keeps waking, confused, wondering where I am and what time it is, wondering if I should be awake or asleep. Jet lag sucks even more when you are old. But today begins … Continue reading

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1 April 2022

Friday Despite exhaustion, sleep is a bastard. My feet never do warm up. My body awakens at its normal time and I force myself back to sleep, over and over, until I feel rested enough to rise. It is sunny … Continue reading

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31 March 2022

Thursday Twelve hours later, after boarding British Airways and finding I have no seat mate (a miracle), eating a better-than-expected airplane meal, reading most of one lesbian romance novel on my phone, and a restless two hours of attempted sleep … Continue reading

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March 30, 2022

Wednesday I’ve been packing for a week, planning every outfit, buying new clothes. The bag is finally shut, bulging, almost heavier than I can manage. I know this will be a problem on this trip but I can’t help it. … Continue reading

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How I Learned About JoJo Siwa

JoJo Siwa.Excuse me? Jojo Siwa.Never heard of her. JoJo Siwa.How do you pronounce the name? JoJo Siwa.“Oh, my ten-year-old niece is crazy about her,” my hairdresser says. JoJo Siwa Comes Out.Out? As in gay, out? 17-year-old JoJo Siwa Has a … Continue reading

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My Body

My body.I have a body.A very special, unique body.Never before in human history has there been a bodylike mine.And there never will beagain.And yet… I grew up in the hot and humid South.Troical, debilitating summer heat.When I was six, my … Continue reading

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My January 6 PTSD

I don’t have a schedule for these blog posts. But sometimes, I just feel one boiling up in me, rising to the top of my consciousness, demanding to be let out. It’s like therapy. This morning, I was watching a … Continue reading

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Boys Will Be Assholes

It’s been quite a week for the patriarchy. Let’s recount what’s been happening: Actor James Franco – In another episode of “boys will be boys” actor James Franco paid $2.2 million dollars to settle a sexual misconduct suit. Franco was … Continue reading

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Texas is a Sh*thole Country

I’m just gonna say it: Texas is a shithole country. It’s time to admit it. Texas has the worst electrical grid in America, as evidenced in the winter of 2021 when as many as 700 Texans froze to death. In … Continue reading

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To Create

My god, what a life I’ve had! Taking the long view, the wide angle, the perspective of almost 60 years, now I can see what a charmed and fascinating ramble it’s been! I remember as a young woman of 21 … Continue reading

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Hating the Others

The air is thick with it here in America, a swirling mass just out of reach of reason, a nauseous wave of vague gray haze that reappears no matter how often we cleanse our collective lens: hate. This is not … Continue reading

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Rest In Peace Matthew

For gay people in America, the day that Matthew Shepherd was murdered is remembered as starkly as the day John Kennedy was killed, or more recently, where we stood on 9/11/01 when the towers fell. Twenty years ago in October … Continue reading

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Sexual Abuse

Sigh. So–sexual abuse of women is a front page headline–again. This is starting to feel like the fight for gun control, like a hopeless fight against something so deeply entrenched in our male dominant culture that it flags on the … Continue reading

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Annual Compliance Tests

I’ve worked in corporate America for most of my life. It’s been boring but relatively lucrative, providing a degree of security that made it worthwhile. Throughout my career (31 cumulative years at more than a dozen different companies) but especially … Continue reading

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